"I'm fine !"

‘Carers are proud of their role and either reluctant or too proud to accept that they might not be up to it; that they might need help and support.

When asked, “How’s it goin’?”, “Fine” they’ll say. When asked, “Everything OK?”, “Aye, fine” will be the reply. But what do they mean by “Fine”?

Do they really mean by ‘Fine’, that they feel Fed-up, Isolated, Neglected and Exhausted; or do they mean that they feel Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional?

It may be that in the future when a carer’s role is properly acknowledged, that when a carer is asked “How are you doin’?”, they will reply “I’m doin’ fine”, “We’re doin’ Fantastic; we each have our Independence; our lives have a semblance of Normality; and we are both Enthusiastic for the future”.

John Ross